Dan’s Blog

Dan’s Blog #11: Caregivers getting it wrong

I like to call caregivers modern day Saints. This is not to suggest that we are perfect. Like everyone else, we make lots of mistakes whether we want to admit it or not. Today, unfortunately, was a good case in point. I chose to take my supper with my in-laws because...

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Dan’s blog #10: And then there were three…

My adventure in caregiving this time around has been focused on my in-laws, who share our family home with us and the Day Program we are running at our retreat centre, Stonebridge Haven. But this house where I live is a BIG house on a BIG lot with permissive zoning...

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Dan’s blog #9: The Double Dementia Dance

  The DDDance moves are becoming more intricate. As her memory is increasingly full of holes, she's filling in with her imagination without realizing it. Of course even those of us with healthy brains do this: even scientists show unconscious bias when interpreting...

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Dan’s blog #8: My grief as a caregiver

I am more and more deeply involved in the lives of frail elderly seniors, some of whom are directly in my care, and others whom I care for on an occasional basis in our Adult Day Program at Stonebridge Haven. As I watch these vital and precious souls slowly declining,...

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Dan’s blog #6: From Caregiver to Care Manager

It's been more than two years since I took on the full-time care of my in-laws. We had been supporting them since their move to a nice independent living facility, but when we could see that they were at risk of being separated by health crises we arranged to have...

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Dan’s blog #4: Deepening Involvement

The 2nd phase of my caregiving came when my father-in-law was barred from driving after both he and his wife were diagnosed with dementia. While he was barely under the line that separates so-called normal cognitive functioning from inadequate cognitive functioning,...

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Dan’s blog #3: Becoming a caregiver once again, phase 1

Some years ago, I was a front-line caregiver for one of my best friends who had developed MSA, a degenerative brain disease. In order to stop his wife, one of my former thesis advisers, from crashing and burning, I stepped in to provide full care for him anywhere from...

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Dan’s blog #2: Prologue to becoming a caregiver

When your loved ones refuse support: prologue to becoming a caregiver by Dan Berg Before I became a caregiver to my in-laws, there were signs that they needed to take action, but they insisted everything was fine. Although I had cared for a friend with advanced...

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Dan’s blog #1: My name is Dan and I’m a caregiver

My name is Dan and this is part of my story, my life as it stands now… I am a caregiver to my in-laws. We got them to move in with us a couple of years ago. How many guys actively work to get their in-laws to move in, in order to become their main caregiver? Let me...

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